Do you really believe that it’s possible for you to find a great partner?
So many of the women and men I speak with every day don’t actually believe it’s possible for them to find healthy love.
The thing is, none of our limiting beliefs are true, and they totally get in the way of finding a great relationship.
Let’s take a look at the top 5 things people believe that might be completely blocking you from finding the relationship you truly desire:
1. I’m over 40, 50, 60 or 70 so I’m too old to find great partner.
It may seem like all the good ones are taken and that those who are single only want to date someone 20 years younger than them, but this is a total illusion.
High quality people appreciate a partner who can truly “meet” them at their emotional maturity level, and this is a key sign of their availability. There are actually a ton of amazing, single people looking for partners their own age (or more mature!) and my clients are living proof.
Ditch this belief right away, and you’ll be well on your way to being open and able to see all the great available partners out there!
2. My past relationships were unhealthy so no one will want to date me.
Some people who've had a long, bad marriage, or a string of traumatic relationships with partners who did NOT treat them well, feel like “damaged goods.” They feel afraid that if they are honest with the people they’re dating about their love history, these potential mates will judge them and run the other direction.
First, recognize that there are many potential partners out there who are in the same situation — who are worried about the same things you are! Second, any potential partner who is worth your time will love you for who you are, and won’t care. They’ll be happy to finally be the one to love you the way you deserve to be loved.
The key is that you must rewire this belief so that you feel worthy of their love. This is a big part of the work I do with my clients, and I’ve helped hundreds of women and men with challenging relationship histories get into a great partnership. Trust me, it’s possible!
3. I am inexperienced with men, or women, or dating, so it’s too late for me.
I often get calls and emails from both women and men who have never had a romantic relationship, who are over 40, and believe that no one will want to date them due to their lack of experience.
Again, a really great partner doesn’t care about this at all. They only cares about who you are and how they feel around you, not what your relationship history is.
If this applies to you, it’s vital to rewire this belief and to get support building your confidence so you can finally find your partner. They’re out there, and they’ll appreciate your unique journey — if you’re able to “own it” and not feel embarrassed by it!
4. I’ve been alone for so long now, that no one will want to be with me.
Hopefully by now you’re seeing the pattern — a wonderful, available partner doesn’t care about your past, and they definitely don’t care how long you’ve been single, or living alone!
What they do care about is how much you value yourself, how confident you are in your self-worth, and how emotionally available you are.
This is where a big part of your work is — increasing your self love. This is what will get you into a great relationship, not lamenting that it’s too late for you, worrying that you’re too set in your ways, or that someone will judge you for your past.
One of the biggest ways I help my clients is to finally get complete with everything in their relationship history (or lack thereof) so they can begin creating their future. You deserve that too!
5. There are no great, available women or men “out there,” or online.
This is a very popular belief, and it's very to find proof and validation for it, but it will kill your love life, since it stops you from trying and allows you to go down the death spiral of disappointment and defeat.
There are a lot of awful dates out there online and in the world, and everyone has a few dating horror stories nowadays. But, if you know what to look for in a partner, how to find them, and how to get their attention, you’ll suddenly find that there are also a lot of great, available potential partners out there.
The problem is that if you’re wired to be attracted to unavailable people, it will seem like all the possibilities out there are all unavailable. When my clients finally unwind this pattern, they immediately begin finding potential partners and can’t believe how much better it is.
If you don’t know how to navigate online dating sites, you’ll only find Mr. or Ms. Wrong, even though there are plenty of better options hidden from your view.
This is why I help my clients choose which sites to go on, who to contact, and how to put together a great online dating profile. With my help, they are able to find great partners online.
If you’re ready to rewire these beliefs so you can finally have the partnership you’ve always wanted, I want to help you do that.
Your first step is to watch the video I created for you here:
Then, if you like what you saw and you feel compelled to move forward, apply for a complimentary phone session with my team (click the link under the video), where you’ll uncover the blocks that are preventing you from attracting an available man, and discover the steps you need to take to find him and create an amazing relationship.