I don’t want to be mean.
I don’t want people to not like me.
I don’t want to be called a “bitch.”
If I’m a bitch, then I might hurt someone’s feelings, or make someone angry, or step on someone’s toes.
If I’m a bitch, I might lose the connection, or create an awkward moment, or cause a disharmony.
But guess what “bitches” do:
They have boundaries.
They stand up for themselves.
They say NO and mean it.
Wikipedia say this about the word “bitch”:
“Bitch, literally meaning a female dog, is a pejorative slang word for a person — usually a woman — who is belligerent, unreasonable, malicious, controlling, aggressive, or dominant. When applied to a man, bitch reverses its meaning and is a derogatory term for a subordinate, weak, or cowardly man. Its original use as a vulgarism, documented from the fifteenth century, suggested high sexual desire in a woman, comparable to a dog in heat. The range of meanings has expanded in modern usage. In a feminist context, it can indicate “a strong or assertive woman.”
I love that last line.
No wonder so many women do everything we can to not be called a “bitch.”
We don’t want to be thought of as “belligerent, unreasonable, malicious, controlling, aggressive, or dominant.”
But what if sometimes, being strong and assertive is what’s called for?
What if telling someone: “Um, I’m talking right now,” is staying in your power, center, ground?
What if telling someone: “It’s not ok to talk to me like that,” is exactly what’s called for?
What if telling someone: “Get your hand off my ass,” is exactly what’s needed in that moment?
What about YOUR Inner Bitch?
So I ask you to wonder for yourself – where have you forsaken your inner bitch?
Where have you left her to wither and die?
Where have you said, “It’s not ok for me to speak my truth in this moment because I’m not going to be liked, or cause a disconnection or disharmony?”
Where have you said to yourself, “I have to be a good girl, I can’t be disruptive, I can’t make a scene, I can’t make the other person feel uncomfortable because of my own needs?”
Or maybe you freeze when that moment comes, you want to speak but everything in you stays small and stuck.
Doing the WORK to Find Her
I’ve worked a lot on this. It’s gotten a LOT better. And there’s still more work to do.
And this is one of my favorite things to help my clients with.
Helping them step into their power and speak their truth in a clear, assertive, articulate way so their boundaries can be felt, heard, seen, and then most importantly they will be respected.
Would you like my help with this? If you have a deep desire to reclaim your inner “bitch,” I'd love to work with you. too.
Start by checking out the Masterclass I created for you, where you’ll learn the 5 Shifts to Stop Investing in Relationships with No Future.
Then, if you want more, apply here for a completely free breakthrough session, where we will explore where your inner bitch got lost, suppressed or ignored, how that's affecting your love life, and what steps you can take to reclaim her.
Because ALL of you deserves to be loved.
