I’ve talked a lot about the painful experience of dating unavailable men and women, but there’s something even more crazy-making …
What is it?
It’s dating a perpetually confused person (and trying to “save” them.)
When you met, they said they wanted a committed relationship, marriage and even children with you.
A few months later, they mention they might want to be “non-monogamous,” — aren't sure if they even believe in marriage, and don’t want kids.
The next week, they're back to wanting commitment or they're a “maybe.”
Or, when you first met them, they seemed to love their career.
Six months into dating, you realize they're totally stressed out and unclear about what they should be doing with their life or business.
But instead of giving up, you “lean in”
You feel like you can help them get clarity, and turn their life around — after all, this person is nearly everything you want and it’s soooo close, right?
You start recommending books, therapists, coaches, mentors. They're vaguely interested but only take action when you insist.
Eventually they lose interest and revert back to being confused.
You feel like you’re losing your mind.
One minute they're one way, another minute they're completely different.
It's impossible to keep up.
Staying with this person is a common dating trap
A trap that even the smartest, most successful, women and men can fall into.
We think we can fix a confused partner, but really the only person who can get them to turn their life around is THEM.
Until they stand up and put a stake in the ground, and say: “I WILL CHANGE!” and then take some action on it, you can bet they’ll stay the same … confused and ambivalent. Waiting for someone else to do something about it.
You sticking around trying to keep convincing them will rob you of your confidence, your vitality and your energy.
It’s not worth it.
The sooner you get out, the sooner you can find someone who is a full YES to the key things that you want and NEED in a partnership.
No matter how convinced you are that this is as good as it gets for you — because “there aren't many available women or men out there,” you’re “too old,” “too messed up,” “not attractive enough,” or “can’t seem to find anyone better,” it’s NOT the truth.
YOU are the one who needs to take action
I’ve helped hundreds of women and men find their way out of this pattern of dating Mr./Ms. Ambivalent and sail right on by their old beliefs that they can’t have a happy and secure relationship with a partner they’re attracted to, and I can help you too.
If you’re ready to make space for true love to enter your life, here’s what I’ve got for you:
A FREE Masterclass to help you stop attracting people who take you for granted and don't meet you at your level so you can open yourself up to finding a loving, adventurous, and available partner.
If you’re serious about transforming your love life so that you can have the relationship you've always wanted, this is the first step to making that big change.
We'll help you get clear on what's been keeping you in a pattern of dating unavailable people. Then, we'll show you how to begin shifting this pattern — for good — so you get into the best relationship of your life!
