There are so many simple (and obvious) reasons you might feel justified in staying in contact with your ex …
- You love them
- You care about them
- You want to know what they are doing with their lives
But the problem is: keeping in contact with an ex — especially in the first 6 months following a break-up — can be truly detrimental to your healing process.
If you think about a physical wound, like a deep cut on your finger: Is it good to keep opening it back up?
No. It needs time, space, air, and healing energy. It needs care, gentleness, and attention.
You Have to Stop Cracking Open the Wound
Similar to that cut on your finger, when you talk to an ex, you just keep cracking that wound open. Every time you do, it brings up all the old feelings that you felt in the relationship, so it doesn’t actually give you the space to grieve, heal, and move on.
Sometimes all it takes is hearing their voice, and your heart opens back up to them.
They say one triggering thing, and you feel like you are right back, smack dab in the dynamic of the relationship.
It’s a GIFT to give yourself a break from this.
It’s about prioritizing YOU.
It’s one of the hardest, and best things you can do to take care of your own heart.
But, when you don’t have the right support, it can be really hard to do this.
And that support can mean the difference between healing and moving on to a healthier happier love, or continually being on the hamster wheel of a toxic relationship.
If you’d like my help breaking free from a painful relationship, here’s your first step:
Check out the Expert Interview I did on the 5 Shifts to Stop Investing in Relationships with No Future and Find a Loving & Secure Partnership.
And if you like what you see there, I’d love to invite you to talk with someone on my team (just click the link below the video.)
Because you deserve to heal, my friend. All the way, this time.