One of the most common challenges that comes up when I coach people around dating is this: You go on a date, or a match sends you a message online. You wind up getting upset by something this person says to you. For example, they might say something that deeply...
When you first start dating someone, do you find yourself constantly in your head, thinking incessantly about where the relationship is going and whether it’s going to work out? For both women and men with anxious attachment, it can be hard to be present with what’s...
I’ve talked a lot about the painful experience of dating unavailable men and women, but there’s something even more crazy-making … What is it? It’s dating a perpetually confused person (and trying to “save” them.) When you met, they said they...
Recently, in our Facebook group, a woman asked this question: “Why do I always do better when NOT in a relationship?” When she's single, she’s more successful in her career, she does better in courses/school, she has a more active and fulfilling social life, takes...
Most conventional dating and relationship coaches say that you’re supposed to convince a potential partner with avoidant attachment (i.e. chronically non-committal) that you’re the right person for them. Popular dating strategies include: Ignoring them until they do...
