The media and our whole culture have it all wrong. Women are taught that our looks are the reason we’re lovable and attractive to men. Men are taught that their accomplishments and wealth are the reason they’re lovable and attractive to women. Everywhere you turn,...
Wanting love isn’t for the faint of heart. It involves sitting through moment after moment of discouraging evidence that seems to promise you love will never arrive. There will be many mornings when you feel achingly lonely, when you deeply long to wake up, open your...
Deep listening is my number one love language that I desire to receive. I know it’s not one of the official love languages, but if I could add one, this would be it. To be seen, heard and felt is the thing that makes my heart open and makes me feel known. And when...
{Trigger warning: This message is about an experience of trauma, shock and panic} The other day, I was driving on the freeway, and there was a piece of tire on the road, in my lane. Unfortunately, I had no lead time and couldn’t swerve to avoid it. My car ran over it...
In the past, when I would feel a boundary was crossed by a date or a partner — when they would do something that I didn’t feel comfortable with, or blamed me for their feelings — I would see it, but I wouldn’t say anything. Instead I would keep engaging...
The other night, on a date, I noticed I felt like an object. I felt alone, and I felt like the person in front of me couldn’t really see me. The night before, on a different date, I noticed that I felt gotten, connected, seen, and like the person genuinely...
